These questions are for the Wife/woman of a marriage relationship. I believe these questions were inspired answers to fervent prayers on the subject of marriage, what it means, why I am married. These questions are intended for meditation, self-evaluation, strengthening, and interactive prayer with our Father.

Why did you choose him? Why did you say “I do”?

Why have you followed his lead for so many years?

Why, at times, have you not followed him?

Why is he the father of your children?

On a lighter note, why have the two of you been so very intimate (sexually) with each other? (Or, why have you not been so very intimate at times?) Why is it so easy and fun when you are intimate with him? Why is it so easy and fun to be openly or outwardly intimate in public with him? (Or, why is it not so easy?)

What do you like about him?

What do you love about him?

What do you like about yourself?

What makes you angry? (Not having to do with him)

What makes you angry dealing with him?

What have been your disagreements?

What about yourself do you not like?

Why is “I don’t know”, or “I don’t want to hear it” so easy to say? Why is listening to him so hard? Why can you say “I want to talk” BUT he cannot talk to you (because you “don’t want to hear it”)?!

The next few things get more detailed; I have some questions that should lead you to consider the TRUTH, details and FACTS that you know, and the ones you do not want to face or admit but are probably the most important for you to face.

Why is hiding things or becoming “closed up” the thing you want to do, rather than admitting, before you mistakes bloom?

Have you considered the strengths of your husband/father in connection to (with) the way he has carried himself as a husband and father? Have you considered the strengths and weaknesses of yourself in connections with the way he has carried himself, AND why he has stayed with you?

Have you truthfully and honestly displayed and shared (the things you want him so badly to tell and share with you), with him?

Can you look back and realize or find factual (not opinion) reasons why he has acted, done, or reacted the ways he has for the time you’ve been married? What part did you play in it all?

What traits and actions come from you upbringing? What are yours alone?

Has Dad (spouse) really been “that” bad?

Have you allowed the “minority” negatives of him blow up around you, and let the “majority” positives of him go by the wayside?

What do you really believe, in all your years of marriage?

Is Yahweh (God) there? Do you call on HIS wisdom and listen for His answer?

Proverbs 1-4, Titus 2

Finally, when are you going to sit with him, put duck tape on your mouth, open your ears, and hear him out? (All of him, negatives and all)

Can you allow him to vent, without interrupting, as you want him to allow you?

Can you vent without Anger, just as you do with your closest friend or daughter?

(Note: your tone really controlled, sets the stage and leaves the soul refreshed; or, uncontrolled, sets the stage and leaves the soul bitter)

If you strengthen each others’ strengths, weaknesses will become strengths, and bad weaknesses or character flaws will fade.