These questions are for the Husband/Man of a marriage relationship. I believe these questions were inspired answers to fervent prayers on the subject of marriage, what it means, why I am married. These questions are intended for meditation, self-evaluation, strengthening, and interactive prayer with our Father.

Why did you marry her? Why did you follow her? Why did you keep all others away from her? Why have you stayed with her? Why is she the mother of your children?

On a lighter note, why have the two of you been so very intimate with each other? (Or, why have you not been so very intimate at times?) Why is it so easy and fun when you are intimate with her? Why is it so easy and fun to be openly or outwardly intimate in public with her? (Or, why is it not so easy?)

My point is to begin the questioning process that Philippians 4:8-9 states, and to open the mind to realize what your wife so desperately needs to hear (what you need to learn to express).

What do you like about yourself?

Now, of course you have to address the negative to be completely open. What makes you angry?

What about your wife makes you angry? What are your disagreements? What about yourself do you not like?

The next few ponderings should lead you to consider the TRUTH, facts and details that you know, and the ones you do not want to face or admit; but, they are probably the most important for you to face.

Have you considered the strengths of your wife in connection with the way she has carried herself as a wife and mother?

Have you considered the strengths and weaknesses of yourself in connection with the way she has carried herself as a wife and mother?

And, why has she stayed by your side all of your married years?

Can you think back and realize or find “factual” (not negative opinion) why she has acted, done or reacted the ways she has for the time you’ve been married? What part did you play? Did you literally “play” enough?

What traits come from your upbringing? What are yours alone?

Has your wife really been that bad?

Have you allowed the “minority” negative (of her) blow up around the two of you and let the “majority” positives (of her) by the wayside?

Why is taking the “easy way out” seen so easy?

Would any other woman be any better? Would you be any better with someone else, or would you stay the same ‘ol man?

Would you be any happier or better alone? (Honestly)

What do you really believe in all your married year of marriage?

Is Yahweh (God) there?

Do you call and then listen for HIS wisdom? Proverbs 1-4, Titus 2

Finally, when will you take the time to sit and talk to her?

When are YOU going to ask HER to walk a trail with you for the afternoon (Alone) and just communicate? (Look up the definition of ‘communicate’ in the Bible and in the dictionary—it is interesting).

When will you hear her out, all of her, negative and all?

Can you let her vent (comment free)? Can you allow yourself to do the same (without anger)?

Can you? Will you?

If you strengthen each others’ strengths, weaknesses will become strengths, and bad weaknesses will fade.